There was a time I was hanging out with some people from work on a Saturday night. “Where are the kids at?” one of them asked me, “They are at their mom’s house until tomorrow.” — “Ohhhhhhhhh, so you aren’t a REAL mom then.” Um. Excuse me? Who the hell says something like that to someone? I take into consideration that this person is not a parent before I answered, because as I have found out, people just aren’t educated about step families and blended families. But that doesn’t mean it still doesn’t hurt.
When I became a stepmom I knew there would be a lot of hurdles to over come and obstacles I would need to navigate around. What I didn’t think would happen was the ignorant comments that come out of strangers and even friend’s mouths.
ig·no·rant -adjective -
>> lacking knowledge or awareness in general; uneducated or unsophisticated.
“he was told constantly that he was ignorant and stupid”
>> lacking knowledge, information, or awareness about something in particular.
“they were ignorant of astronomy”
>> discourteous or rude.
“this ignorant, pin-brained receptionist”
That is the dictionary definition of the word ignorant.
Let me give you a play by play of how a conversation might go with a fellow mom (FM) on the playground.
FM: Aren’t they cute, are those two yours?
Me: Yup, every inch of them.
FM: Wow, you look great for having two kids.
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